We are just hours from the moment most women from all over the world have been waiting for: The Royal Wedding. The perfect union of a prince and his princess in a wedding that will write history. A wedding so spectacular that little girls from all over the world will be dreaming that they too one day will meet their prince and have a wedding just like that. A wedding that signifies grace, beauty and true love.
Prince William has met his match and on April 29, 2011, Kate Middleton will become a princess. Isn’t that every girl’s dream, to meet prince charming and become a princess and then ride off into sunset?
Absolutely. However, right now everyone is wondering what will Kate’s dress look like? Did she pick Versace or some other designer? Will her hair be swept up in a glamorous up do or will it be left down, long, soft and wispy? What will her wedding band look like? Will she wear the queens crown? Which guests will be attending? Who will Prince Henry bring as a date? The questions go on and on and all of them will easily be answered by morning.
Amidst all the hype and excitement, unlike many women, I have no plans to stay up late tonight and watch the ceremony. That being said, I do want my questions answered. I too want to know what her dress will look like, will the women all be wearing fabulous hats, and all of the other superficial things we as woman think about. I just plan on recording it on my DVR and also following up on the web tomorrow. However the one question that I really want answered, the one that has been in the back of my mind for months is, “do fairy tales come true?”
We all dream about it, wishing and hoping that our lives will turn out exactly how we dreamed. When becoming engaged to the man of your dreams there appears to be nothing wrong in the world. Your joy and happiness completely outweighs anything that could possibly be considered bad. You continue on through your engagement blissfully ignoring the little things that bother you about prince charming and the only thing that could possibly upset you is minor interruptions to your splendid wedding details. Life could not be more right.
Your wedding day finally arrives and not only do you feel like a princess marrying her prince charming but everything goes perfectly as planned and you could not have had a better day. Life merrily continues with the dream honeymoon and the two of you feel more in love then you ever thought you would be. The fairy tale is coming true–or is it?
The honeymoon ends and life takes control, work, home, laundry, dishes, housecleaning, it all begins. This is the point where many people fall short and sadly the fairy tale ends. Slowly they stop putting in the effort needed to maintain the pre-wedding status. The excuses begin, you are both tired from your daily routines and when you return home you don’t have the energy to sit and talk for hours like you used to. There is laundry to do, toilets to clean and that is so much more important than the candlelight dinners you used to have. With the lack of conversation that the wife needs the man often sees a lack of attention in the bedroom, which he needs.
I am pretty sure that no one plans this. You don’t ever go into a marriage thinking you will be too busy or too tired to pay attention to the one you love. I don’t think any of this is a conscious decision, it is just the opposite–it is a lack of effort. It is a routine that if continued for any length of time is only going to leave to trouble and deterioration of the fairy tale.
On the other hand, I am a hopeless romantic and I do believe that fairy tales can come true–they just take work. From the day you fall in love until the day you die you have to make every effort to show the one you love that your love is neverending. Yes no one is perfect and we all make mistakes and often those mistakes hurt the one we love the most. It is the overwhelming amount of time that I am referring to. Effort has got to be made day in and day out or your fairy tale will turn into a nightmare.
It can be as easy as when you come home from a long day at work, no matter how tired you are, you still have to show your love and affection. It could be as simple as laying down on the bed, telling your girl that you love her, your exhausted but why doesn’t she come sit by you and tell you about her day. Silly–maybe–but in the long run wouldn’t you rather your princess know that yes you are tired but she is still more important?
Think of it this way, when you are dating (trying to impress) someone, you dress up, put makeup on, smell nice, do your hair, listen to him/her, laugh at jokes, hold hands, basically you do everything and anything for that person in order to make them happy. So why, after such a magical moment as a wedding, does that stop? Once you have “the one” don’t you want them to always feel the same way about you? Don’t you want them to walk in the door every day anxious to see you? Don’t you want them calling and texting you throughout the afternoon just because they want to say “I love you?” Or would you prefer they are irritated and bothered by you and would rather stay at work than come home, because at least there, they get a little attention?
So many people say that when you are married you should be able to relax and let your spouse see all of you. I say, there is nothing wrong with letting your hair down and getting comfortable, but truthfully you should be able to do that with your prince charming long before you are married. Just don’t let comfort turn into laziness. If you want your fairy tale to come true you are going to have to make the effort.
So with Prince William and Kate headed down the aisle in just a few short hours and all the excitement over clothes, guests and drama, I hope that they don’t lose sight of their fairy tale. With a little effort, we all can have our happy ending and ride off into the sunset with our prince charming.
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