Webster’s Dictionary defines fate as that which unavoidably befalls a person; fortune; lot; The universal principle or ultimate agency by which the order of things is presumably prescribed; That which is inevitably predetermined; A prophetic declaration of what must be.
If fate is something so unavoidable and inevitably predetermined, can you make a mistake and miss your fate? Or does fate have a way of working things out?
I have always believed in life unfolding in a way that allows those things that are meant to be. I believe that things happen for a reason and while it may be unclear while it is happening, at some point in life you will completely understand why events took place in the past.
Take my husband and me for example. We met 20 years ago just as I was getting ready to enter high school. Shortly after meeting we started dating and continued our relationship for the next 5.5 years. Everyone around us–parents, friends, family, everyone really, would say to us “you two are the perfect couple and meant to be.” We were that great together. The only thing that kept us from reaching our potential back then was the fact that we had some growing up to do and growing can be painful. College took a toll on us, we were young and confused and in search of ourselves while trying to stay together. Mistakes were made and we parted ways.
Fate was determined though–the more we tried to pull apart, the more times it threw us back together. I ran and ran and ran and I just could not escape what I knew to be true and right. I am a stubborn girl and that makes it very hard when fate is yelling at you and you just won’t listen out of pure desire to be right. No matter how hard I fought it, fate wanted what it wanted.
Now here we are twenty years after we met and we are married and happier than we have ever been. My life it not perfect nor has it gone as I thought it would, but I am married to the man I should have always been with. Sometimes it is hard to not wish we could go back to a time when life was more simple and change things. Sometimes we dream of an easier path. However, was it a mistake that things took the path they did or was that a part of fate’s plan as well?
Let’s see, if I had not been so stubborn in the past I would not have experienced all the amazing things I did. I have traveled all over and lived in many different places, including Hawaii, which I have to thank my past for. My husband and I would not have four beautiful children whom we love and adore if we had just put into action what we knew to be right in the past. We also would not have two exes in our lives that can be extremely frustrating at times, not to mention all of the false accusations and lies. But without them, those four children would not be here and those four make everything including the good and the bad so very worth it. All of these experiences have made us who we are today and personally, I love who we have become.
If you can’t miss your fate, which I do not believe you can, then is there a way to make it easier and avoid all of the garbage that goes along with taking the longer route? Fate is coming whether you are ready or not, so the only way to avoid the harder, longer path is to be prepared.
How can you be prepared for the unknown and this predetermined cosmic fate?
Know what you want, be prepared to follow through and trust that fate will show you the way. All of which is easier said than done to be sure. But think about it a little, If I had not been so stubborn and set my emotions aside, I would have seen that what I wanted all along was standing right in front of me. However being young and naive, I did not know exactly what I wanted. All I can say is if you are in a place in your life where you are at a crossroads with fate, do you best to figure out exactly what you want and go after it. Whether it be a relationship or a career choice, define your desire and own it. Do not be afraid. They say knowledge is power, and I think in your quest to follow fate, knowledge will absolutely give you a leg up.
Once you know what you want, prepare for it. You may not know when exactly things will happen or work out for you but getting ready is key. Take this website for example, I have known my whole life I wanted to write but I was too scared to pursue it. Time and time again opportunity knocked and passed me by. Then a few years ago I took a leap of faith and began writing for other people. No not exactly what I was wanting to do but it paid and it gave me experience. Then on top of that I started playing around with blogging and testing the waters a little. I learned what worked and what didn’t and what gained peoples attention as well as what lost their attention. Now here we are in 2011, this website has only been up and running for the a little over a month and a half–my first month, I had several thousand people read my work (not bad for 28 days and no advertising) and I had email after email asking me to re-post my work as well as offering me writing jobs. 14 days into my second month and I have already well surpassed the previous month’s totals–will Day to Day Woman be successful? Who knows, but I am preparing for it. Only fate knows what the plan is, but I will be ready when the door opens.
What’s left, trusting fate. I keep referring to fate as the all knowing and if I weren’t trying to keep religion and personal beliefs out of this post I would probably tell you that God is the one who is really in control here. And if I were going down that path, I would probably quote some scripture about trusting in the Lord with all your heart, but since I am not doing that today, I will just say to trust in what you believe and have faith in the things you want. Life has a way of working itself out even when you think all hope is lost.
So can you make a mistake and miss you fate? I don’t think so.
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